Friday, April 2

Single Sibling !!


"You don't know being a single sibling is a blessing from God", "You are a single kid, you have no idea how lucky you are", "You must be getting all the attention", "You must be getting whatever you ask from your mom dad.." & so on....

I generally hear such philosophies from people who don't belong to this category of being single child. For them being single is like some great great thing. Try putting yourself in following situations i'm going to scribble below..
  • You are experiencing an emotional breakdown, its 3 in the morning, do you expect to trouble your parents every time for small small issues of life.
  • You and your mom-dad don't agree on some demand of yours, and you have nobody to back you.
  • You get an over protective care from them, and its start getting irritating after some time.
  • Very often you tend to be the total focus of attention of parents, especially non-working mothers. Child space and independence goes zero.
  • Most of the time our parents are correct, but sometimes the generation gap do jumps in, and you alone cannot make them understand it.
  • You just had a terrible fight with them, at least there should be someone to tell you who was correct.
  • You just fell in love with a beautiful girl in college...
  • And in my case, whom to tell when i get a new crush every month or two..
  • You want to play double player games.
  • You want to abuse someone, knowing that you would get abused in return without any harm feelings.
  • You need someone to tell, the shirt you wearing isn't looking good on you.
  • You need someone to fight with.
  • You generally get over-depended for small small things.

You generally find substitute for your sibling, be it in cousin form, girl-friend, or your best/special friend,...but you will always land up realizing that you have a limit for that as each one of them have a life of their's own..and you cannot intrude into it every time you get an emotional breakdown or got a new crush... moreover the personal touch still remains missing.

I agree the positive points for being single kid must be equally strong, may be it so !! As the grass always looks greener on the other side of the fence. But still i personally feel being a single sibling isn't good for me at all..


25 delusions (comments):

♫ Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ ♫ ayu ♫ Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ ♫ on April 2, 2010 at 3:01 PM said...

yeah..i understand you in your situation though im not an only child like you..well you must be in really tough situation and a sibling will be a big help..>.<

but we cant blame our parents if we are just the only child in the family..the always remedy to that is to first accept it and move one..try to share your feelings with others so you dont feel like youre just alone anyway..


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Rahil on April 2, 2010 at 4:07 PM said...

@Ayu
I'm not at all blaming my parents. Its just i am sharing my views about being a single sibling.

I have already accepted it and moved on :) :)

Urvashi on April 2, 2010 at 4:36 PM said...

hmm...being single has some positives n negatives too as u rightly said.....!! but sometimes..like in the situations u mentioned... u really miss someone by ur side wen u r single...

those discussions, fights, quarrels, teasings, masti is really really wonderful n n othing can replace tht...!!

"whom to tell when i get a new crush everey month or two..??" spk up here... :) ;)

sumeen on April 2, 2010 at 5:31 PM said...

hi rahil,..wat u wrote is true in many aspects..coz beleive me i have seen both sides,..ashish being a single child & me u know with 2 siblings....but again u have d pros & con of all things,..& u always feel the other one is better,..i know having brothers & sisters especially when u grow up is a blessing,..but than u cant fight ur own fate & wish u had them instead u shuld find them in people who are closest to u,..life becomes much easier when u accept & stop wishing!!!!!

Jaunty anima on April 2, 2010 at 5:32 PM said...

Like u just said...the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence...!!
Doesn't it apply to you too...

Waise should I share a secret with u here...even m missing my sis n bro like anything...there are cousins but I can't shout at dem, fight with dem d way I do wid Ridhima n aryan...
So can understand...but won't encourage this attitude...It's very bad...adapt to it yaar!!!adapt se zyada enjoy it!!

Rahil on April 2, 2010 at 5:51 PM said...

@Urvashi
Are u too a single sibling??

very true, the things you mentioned cannot be replaced.

And abt the crushes.. nice suggestion !! I will keep it my mind.. ;) :)

Rahil on April 2, 2010 at 5:53 PM said...

@Sumeen Didi
"life becomes much easier when u accept & stop wishing!"

Yeah very very true..have already partially applied to my life..

Rahil on April 2, 2010 at 5:57 PM said...

@Rhythm
You missing them?? aren't they always with you.

tension mat le, already enjoying it ! Bas wanted to share this phase of my life..

niharika on April 2, 2010 at 5:58 PM said...

hmm... Ok I really don't want to aggravate ur situation further.. but yes.. having a sibling takes half the share of everything! a +/-both! but u know.. i love the +'s of it.. specially when u have a sister u can pamper and spoil like hell! haha! takes u back to ur own childhood.. nevertheless..let's focus on the positive side of being a single kid.. for eg : u don't have those nasty brutal revengeful fights over the better side of bed.. and the TV remote..
u don't havta feel like killing urself.. after ur sibling blackmails u for all those nasty secrets u have shared! and well.. no fights over the amounts of maggi.. and no horrible debates over "who the bloody hell's responsible for the telephone bills"! :D
So u see.. i have some positives to give you! cheer up! :)

divsi on April 2, 2010 at 8:20 PM said...

gud one..u expressed it very very nicely:)
for me siblings are the bestest gifts of god!
:)

Aries on April 3, 2010 at 6:44 AM said...

Well, I understand how you feel as a single only child at home, but look on the bright side. I personally think all those single child a tougher.

Mehak Mahajan on April 3, 2010 at 8:38 AM said...

rahiiii tizz z ssooooo damn gud.....u expressed it soo wel...i olrdy knew ol tiz as u hd shared wid me...buh tiz for tiz Blog a hug frm ur best frn Meku >:D< Stay blessd.....

Mehak Mahajan on April 3, 2010 at 8:40 AM said...

i olso knw d lov of a siblin....meki mayu se soo big fyts hoti...buh stil i luv him...n he olso luvs me....v both cnt liv widout each odr.....wenevr i buy sumthin, i do shop fr him evn.....dese r d gifts ov Godn off course frm mum dad 2 ;)....<3

samadh on April 3, 2010 at 10:47 AM said...

kya bakwas hai yeh....siblings ke apne maze hote hain...

vandy on April 3, 2010 at 11:25 AM said...

awwwwww

but as ridz said grass is always greener on the other side

and as i offered,,,,you are always welcomed to adopt a devil present at my home :P

Rahil on April 3, 2010 at 11:37 AM said...

@Niharika
:) :)
but if you see it from my side, when you get full of everything..u tend to get bored with it ;)

@Divsi
yep it is one of the bestest gifts !!

@Avantika
yeah that is what i do, enjoy the other side of being a single child :) :)

Rahil on April 3, 2010 at 11:52 AM said...

@Aries
Yeah the toughness is there, but actually it isnt in my case.

@Mehak
Aap ka comment mere blog par, mera blog toh dhanye ho gya :)

having somebody always beside you..i'm jealous of u ;)

@Samadh
Siblings ke apne mazze toh hoote hai, maine kab mnaa kiya..lekin i personally feel ki having a sibling is good.

Rahil on April 3, 2010 at 11:55 AM said...

@Vandy
Naa babaa..apna devil apne paas rakho..you were the only one who made me think that i was wrong with my belief ;)

Neha on April 3, 2010 at 2:04 PM said...

Are you crazy? Being a single child must be a bliss!

I do understand the points you mentioned!

But positives of being the single child outnumber the negatives anyday!!!

:)

Chengdi!!! on April 3, 2010 at 8:44 PM said...

Can understand wht r u feelng being a single child...

though i hav an elder bro..he doesnt stay here and is away frm home for almost 10yrs nw for studies,job nd all tht stuff... it brings me to same situation as urs...

whn he left i was a school going kid nd whn i needed him the most he was not here...so the bond jst did nt build up...

very true nd very nicely put up...

But hope u pay more attention towards the positive side of it..

Ab isko toh badla nah ja sakta!!

keepp bloggng!!! :)

Americanising Desi on April 4, 2010 at 2:23 PM said...

single or not - i can relate - wonder why!

bliss on April 7, 2010 at 8:01 PM said...

i agree on every point. makes me realize how important my siblings actually are to me. bu tmroe importantly, i realized, i must mean pretty much in their lives too!! :P nice post, i can understand the situation although never been there myself. but makes sense! :)

Urvashi on April 7, 2010 at 11:24 PM said...

@Rahil : no, I m not a single child..hv a younger bro..hes too too too anughty but I cant imagine life without him :)

Nile on April 8, 2010 at 1:48 PM said...

nice one ....

Dr.Littmann(tinni) on December 22, 2011 at 9:41 PM said...

thanxx Rahil for explaining the situation of being single child...i understand it totally...as i too belong to d single's category..
single's only knw d value of brother / sister...
great post..:))

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