Sunday, May 3

Falling in Love....♥ ♥

"How do I know if I am with the right person?"

Here's the answer.

There is a cycle in every relationship...In the initial; you fall in love with your partner. You anticipate their calls, want their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love.

People in love sometimes say, "I was swept of my feet." Picture the expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something happened TO YOU. Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love fades. It's a natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your partner's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship; you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stages when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage. At this point, you and/or your partner might start asking, "Am I with the right person?" And as you reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when relationships breakdown.

People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for fulfillment. Sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, a friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship. It lies within it. I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later. Because (listen carefully to this): The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the person you found.

SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it demands WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make it work. Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your partner). Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. If you know and apply these laws, the results are predictable. You can "make" love. Love is therefore a "decision". Not just a feeling.

Remember this always: God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let GO.

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11 delusions (comments):

Skywalker on May 3, 2009 at 12:31 PM said...

best among all the entries u hve written

Skywalker on May 3, 2009 at 12:32 PM said...

u r in love wid whom???? :P

Rahil Choudhary on May 3, 2009 at 2:30 PM said...

Thankx Sir. Btw i am not in love at present...

Skywalker on May 3, 2009 at 3:35 PM said...

but it surely seems u are

Sukriti on May 3, 2009 at 10:03 PM said...

"Falling in love wasn't hard"..dis vry lyn frm ur blog proves dat u r vry much in luv....nd i wud luv to ask who d lucky grl is????

Rahil Choudhary on May 4, 2009 at 8:41 AM said...

If i knew abt it, i surely wudnt have kept it as a secret...specially wid my gud frnds.

Jaunty anima on May 6, 2009 at 12:06 AM said...

luvvy duvvy....sup wid ya?

samadh on June 3, 2009 at 7:17 PM said...

Oye itna romantic blog post... I think u r in love..!! Badaa kehta phirta hai i am not...but i can assure u are... and i guess i know the girl too..

aany on June 5, 2009 at 3:56 PM said...

AWSM .... :) very true written...... :)

Rahil Choudhary on June 5, 2009 at 4:31 PM said...

Its what i feel...nothin serious !!

I know myself better than any one else..i am not in love... ;)


TECHIE on February 7, 2010 at 3:16 PM said...

Really sounds ROMantique one..
looking for some more flicks as well...

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